How To Find Your Life's Purpose

How To Find Your Life’s Purpose

 
 

Have you ever caught yourself wondering what your purpose is, struggled to find your “why”, or felt like you’re blessed and fortunate to have all the creature comforts you need but you still feel unfulfilled? If so, just know that you're not alone!

Even though it makes you feel a bit guilty to think about, you want and need an outlet OUTSIDE of your kids and home to pursue something that feels bigger than you. You know that you have something more that you're supposed to do in your life, but you aren't sure how to go about finding your "thing" - or if you're even capable of having a "thing". You’re left feeling "blah" - like there's something missing - but you can't quite put your finger on it. If this sounds anything like you, keep reading to get my top tips on how to find your life's purpose.

CONSIDER YOUR CHILDHOOD INFLUENCES

How did your caretakers growing up influence how you see yourself today? How did their worldview inspire your current values, ambitions, and beliefs about yourself? Hint: they impacted you more than you would think. Are the descriptions and identities you adopted under their care really true for you? If not, then it's time to let them go!

STAGES OF PASSION DEVELOPMENT

Once you've separated the identities and views that others put on you from who you really are and aspire to be, it's time to develop your passion. I know you've heard the phrase "find your passion", but I believe that passion isn't something that's lost and needing to be "found". I believe passion is something that you DEVELOP. I also believe that the passion cultivation that leads you to your purpose has 6 parts, or phases:

1. Passion often begins by accident. 

It often begins as an inclination or almost undetectable interest.

2. Passion takes encouragement and exposure. 

Usually the first time you encounter an interest isn't enough to turn it into a full-blown passion. It takes multiple experiences over time to allow your interest to grow. Having a supportive mentor to encourage exploration and more exposure is helpful at this point for strengthening your interest in the topic.

 
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3. Passion isn't always enjoyable. 

Although it begins by following an interest that's enjoyable, it becomes more challenging over time as you become more involved. There may be aspects of your interest that you dislike, but the benefits outweigh the costs at this point.

4. Passion doesn't require talent or skill, AT FIRST. 

Whenever you start something new, chances are you won't be good at it at first. Passion begins with a willingness to explore and a desire to play, not for the reward of being good at it. Talent and skill are developed over time.

5. Passion takes practice. 

Becoming proficient at your interest allows you to explore deeper and develop passion for your interest. In order for this to happen, time and effort must be applied. When you develop a level of skill and expertise in your interest, you enjoy it more and you're able to "get in the flow". Getting to this level takes DELIBERATE PRACTICE.

6. Purpose amplifies passion. 

When you direct your passion toward a higher purpose, you achieve a higher level of meaning and fulfillment. Purpose is the conviction that what you're doing matters because it's connected to serving others. When you can see the impact your passionate efforts make, you feel even more strongly about what you're doing, leading to true fulfillment.


 
Mia Miller is a mother, wife, athlete, and lover of life. She is also a Mindset Coach and Transformation Mentor, and founder of Beflourished.com.